Be calm and just cut it off. Let her say what she feels needs to be said but don't let a dishonest person play you twice.
I've read on SomethingAwful (actual adults are the majority) that there is no reason to maintain regular contact with a liar.
Wow, I'm glad I don't go to Sparta's school...
Oh man I've witnessed what happens when the people at my school gone through a breakup. A couple of kids caught up in a love triangle had to have THREE security officers separating them for the day before being finally suspended.
(Oct. 03, 2011 8:32 PM)Sparta Wrote: [ -> ]I've run into something I've never run into before.
I'm dating...a cheater? I think so 
. I'm going on a study date to tutor her after school tomorrow (I'm charging one kiss 
), but I think she has another boyfriend. Actually I'm sure of it; she walks around holding hands with him and just today I saw them kissing. Any suggestions on what I should do, or how I should confront her about it?
Get her side of the story, weigh it, and then act. Do not act before you hear her side of the story - even a liar/cheater may have reasons that could impact your decision.
Really, though, if you're 100% sure she's cheating, after you hear her story, it'd probably be best to break it off right there. Inform her that you are uncomfortable dating someone who thinks polyamorous behavior is appropriate.
If you really feel vindictive about it, informing her other fella' about it might stick in her craw, too, but really... there's no need to be so juvenile about things. Just hear her story, break it off, and walk.
Now, does she consider what you're doing an actual date, or just a smart person helping her? This kind of thing happened at the Winter dance;a girl named Kayla was talking to a guy who was dating a different Kayla. Kayla #2 saw them talking, and a real fight started. Deputy Bass ended up stopping it, but not until ten minutes or so went by.
But make sure you don't start any beef with her other boyfriend. You don't want any bad feeling between you and him, otherwise you'll probably have trouble on your hands. Anyways, do what Hazel said. But in my opinion, if she admits to it, break up with her. End of story.
EDIT: So, there's this girl I like... (See, told ya XP) Actually, I've liked her for a while now. Anyways, she's really nice and super cute. If my thought process and observations are correct, I think she might like me. Does anybody have any ideas of how to find out without being so flat out about it? I don't know if it would affect our friendship if she found out or not, but she probably already knows...
Join the club...
I'd probably wait a few more days, you know, observe some more, and only ask her once you're 99.99% sure she likes you.
(Oct. 03, 2011 9:03 PM)Bey-Heart Wrote: [ -> ]EDIT: So, there's this girl I like... (See, told ya XP) Actually, I've liked her for a while now. Anyways, she's really nice and super cute. If my thought process and observations are correct, I think she might like me. Does anybody have any ideas of how to find out without being so flat out about it? I don't know if it would affect our friendship if she found out or not, but she probably already knows...
You had a girlfriend several days ago(I know it didn't work out because you're friends or something) and then another one a week or so before that. As such I find this kinda rediculous.
(Oct. 03, 2011 9:11 PM)TITAN Wrote: [ -> ]Join the club...
I'd probably wait a few more days, you know, observe some more, and only ask her once you're 99.99% sure she likes you.
I did wait a few more days.
I've been thinking about it over the weekend. Given her extremely kind nature, I don't think she would mind me liking her, but that obviously doesn't mean she doesn't like me. I'll never know until I ask.
In that case, go for it! You may end up embarrassed and heartbroken, but that's one of the risks of love!
(Oct. 03, 2011 9:18 PM)Ultrablader Wrote: [ -> ] (Oct. 03, 2011 9:03 PM)Bey-Heart Wrote: [ -> ]EDIT: So, there's this girl I like... (See, told ya XP) Actually, I've liked her for a while now. Anyways, she's really nice and super cute. If my thought process and observations are correct, I think she might like me. Does anybody have any ideas of how to find out without being so flat out about it? I don't know if it would affect our friendship if she found out or not, but she probably already knows...
You had a girlfriend several days ago(I know it didn't work out because you're friends or something) and then another one a week or so before that. As such I find this kinda rediculous.
I'm going to second this opinion, Bey-Heart. You're like an after-school special on the dangers of hormones. And, no, that was not intended in a flattering, or jovial, manner.
Seriously, chill out. You're into a new girl every week and posting on here like it's twitter.
As for your question, asking people things bluntly is the only definite way to be sure of anything. Playing idiotic teenager games just gets people hurt, confused, and wastes time.
Um... ok so there is this girl that I like (alot) and I'm very shy so can you guys please help on how I can get her to like me I need a guide
(Oct. 03, 2011 10:54 PM)majinshadow11 Wrote: [ -> ]Um... ok so there is this girl that I like (alot) and I'm very shy so can you guys please help on how I can get her to like me I need a guide
It doesn't work that way.
Even after Kai-V's post has been repeated three times, I counted 5 people on this page that posted about a girl they like, along with several extra posts about that girl.
Shaddap. Might sound rude but nobody really cares. Most of you post most in here than anywhere else.
Hey, if you read I said she's my girlfriend-or, was for that matter.
She admitted to it. But...I like her too much, and just can't bring myself to break up with her. Thing is, I asked my gut and it says regardless "Go on the date anyways!" Now my gut won't agree with what I know in my heart is right...Urgh.
(Oct. 04, 2011 12:04 AM)Sparta Wrote: [ -> ]Hey, if you read I said she's my girlfriend-or, was for that matter.
She admitted to it. But...I like her too much, and just can't bring myself to break up with her. Thing is, I asked my gut and it says regardless "Go on the date anyways!" Now my gut won't agree with what I know in my heart is right...Urgh.
Listen to your mind. its much wiser than a gut and heart together.
...Meep...Why is it so hard...
Your right, I know. Thanks TheInGreek...
(Oct. 04, 2011 12:04 AM)Sparta Wrote: [ -> ]Hey, if you read I said she's my girlfriend-or, was for that matter.
She admitted to it. But...I like her too much, and just can't bring myself to break up with her. Thing is, I asked my gut and it says regardless "Go on the date anyways!" Now my gut won't agree with what I know in my heart is right...Urgh.
Obviously you don't want to lose attention or companionship, but it will get much uglier if you ignore it and carry on like nothing's changed. Confront her and walk.
(Oct. 03, 2011 9:18 PM)Ultrablader Wrote: [ -> ]You had a girlfriend several days ago(I know it didn't work out because you're friends or something) and then another one a week or so before that. As such I find this kinda rediculous.
Uh... What are you talking about? I had a girlfriend about a month ago, and I had a girlfriend a few days ago. And the one I had a few days ago I broke up with because I asked her out over a joke. Sure, I kinda liked her, but not enough for a relationship.
Anyways, I think I will go flat out and ask her. But I'm not sure when, I have to find the right time. She was really upset tonight because her dad might be moving out. Poor girl, but I gave her some advice, and I think it might have helped her a tad bit.
Also, I'm not into a new girl every week.
I liked a few girls, a few. That's it. And it's been that same few this whole time. I'm just going around the circle.
This time, I'm at the point of the circle where it's the one of which I like the most. The others I don't really care for.
(Oct. 04, 2011 12:08 AM)Sparta Wrote: [ -> ]...Meep...Why is it so hard...
Your right, I know. Thanks TheInGreek...
Your welcome.
(Oct. 04, 2011 12:04 AM)Sparta Wrote: [ -> ]Hey, if you read I said she's my girlfriend-or, was for that matter.
She admitted to it. But...I like her too much, and just can't bring myself to break up with her. Thing is, I asked my gut and it says regardless "Go on the date anyways!" Now my gut won't agree with what I know in my heart is right...Urgh.
Dude, drop her. You literally saw her kissing another dude. She's playing you. Just start ignoring her and focus on yourself. Don't be the puppy dog guy who hangs onto a woman's every beck and call just because you think she's attractive. She's obviously not that into you. Find someone who will actually respect you.
Random psychological question, can holding back stress in these situations and not venting cause mental issues?
So next Monday will be the 3 month for John and I. I want to do something fun, but I'm not sure what. I was thinking of spending the day at my house and do stuff like make pancakes for lunch, watch a movie, and play some games. Any other ideas?
(Oct. 04, 2011 2:53 AM)Codeine Extorts Wrote: [ -> ]Random psychological question, can holding back stress in these situations and not venting cause mental issues?
Retaining stress and other such things usually causes resentment, at best, toward the person who is causing the stress. It is often better to resolve an issue, rather than let it fester for long - if you ever feel the need to suppress something, it is best to only do it until the opportune moment to bring it up, lest it have negative effects on your quality of life, or the quality of life of your partner.
(Oct. 04, 2011 3:01 AM)|Joe| Wrote: [ -> ]So next Monday will be the 3 month for John and I. I want to do something fun, but I'm not sure what. I was thinking of spending the day at my house and do stuff like make pancakes for lunch, watch a movie, and play some games. Any other ideas?
If there are any parks nearby, or something like River Street(I'm not certain where you live, I apologize), if it's a nice day out(which it should be, given the time of year), a bit of a stroll or day out, inbetween a nice breakfast and a movie, could be enjoyable.
I do like that idea for the park heh, it's been really chilly in Philadelphia recently though. But yea, we're both 15, neither one of us is gonna be awake for an appropriate breakfast time lol. Thanks for the idea