(Jun. 23, 2011 11:43 PM)NoodooSoup Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 23, 2011 11:37 PM)Nano Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 23, 2011 11:10 PM)Sparta Wrote: [ -> ]It's good to find someone with similar interests like you, because your more likely to get along with them. Someone who's not like you will find it difficult to level with you and talk to you. You should be able to treat a girlfriend like a friend, only closer.
But isn't it awkward dating a friend? Was for me...
Well, you can't date someone you don't know anything about...
Very true. however, her and I know each other really well and are good friends. She said it was just awkward for her
(Jun. 23, 2011 6:26 PM)Megablader9 Wrote: [ -> ]Funny, but it recently hit me that when I was asking that girl, I had no idea what being in a relationship meant. It was purely a status symbol to ask, and now I look stupid. While I hang out with girls often, it's mainly the ones from Anime Club, so I don't really understand the "popular" girls anyway. In fact, they kinda bug me. They fall all over the stupidest guys around, but the guy on the bench is ignored. In the end, who cares about my high GPA, and who cares that the head cheerleader's boyfriend has a 0.5. They don't really care, so why should I? I've been told to change my image so often, but now, hell no! If people think I'm a nerd, well they can kiss my magic carp. (No, not Magikarp.) I mean, why should I have to change my image because you don't like it? If you don't like how I look, turn around. They insist on calling me goofy, a nerd, and just plain lame, but the times I manage to sneak into the starting lineup, they don't remember that. Well, as a famous rapper once said: "Well, I don't remember you." So no, I won't be kissing every girl on the cheerleading squad, thank you. In fact, I'm more likely to flip you off. That's been my attitude lately, and while most people don't get it, I do. In fact, my dad just said "You need to change you image if you want a girlfriend." I yawned. I really don't care. I'm gonna ask one girl, but then I'm done. Besides, a lot of the girls at my school are kinda conceited and, well, rude. All they want to talk about is sex, and I'm always the one who says, "You do realize that we're in 9th grade, right?" So I'm done with the girls at my school. I always hoped that I would meet someone who was the opposite of that, and had a lot in common with me. It turns out, that person sits next to me in Anime Club. And has been for four years. I'm glad I realized this now.
exactly you said it all thats how i thought of it exept i know i already made a post saying i already gave up but this actullay gave me a little hope, though i still thought she was the one... and not because she looked attractive or somthing i actullay LIKED her because she was well, her.
Believe me, you'll find, and either miss, or more often lose, many "the one's", based on the criteria you're using. Hell, even I make the mistake sometimes. I have a lot of trouble saying "I love you" in any serious way. That said, I really thought my last relationship would last as we were very much "right" for each other, more than anyone else I've found, and even that eventually broke down.
I guess what I'm trying to say is be cautious applying the term "the one", and also "love", as it's more likely to fuel only sadness and disappointment.
Sounds grim, but a better way to put it is "don't take things too seriously."
(Jun. 23, 2011 6:26 PM)Megablader9 Wrote: [ -> ]Funny, but it recently hit me that when I was asking that girl, I had no idea what being in a relationship meant. It was purely a status symbol to ask, and now I look stupid. While I hang out with girls often, it's mainly the ones from Anime Club, so I don't really understand the "popular" girls anyway. In fact, they kinda bug me. They fall all over the stupidest guys around, but the guy on the bench is ignored. In the end, who cares about my high GPA, and who cares that the head cheerleader's boyfriend has a 0.5. They don't really care, so why should I? I've been told to change my image so often, but now, hell no! If people think I'm a nerd, well they can kiss my magic carp. (No, not Magikarp.) I mean, why should I have to change my image because you don't like it? If you don't like how I look, turn around. They insist on calling me goofy, a nerd, and just plain lame, but the times I manage to sneak into the starting lineup, they don't remember that. Well, as a famous rapper once said: "Well, I don't remember you." So no, I won't be kissing every girl on the cheerleading squad, thank you. In fact, I'm more likely to flip you off. That's been my attitude lately, and while most people don't get it, I do. In fact, my dad just said "You need to change you image if you want a girlfriend." I yawned. I really don't care. I'm gonna ask one girl, but then I'm done. Besides, a lot of the girls at my school are kinda conceited and, well, rude. All they want to talk about is sex, and I'm always the one who says, "You do realize that we're in 9th grade, right?" So I'm done with the girls at my school. I always hoped that I would meet someone who was the opposite of that, and had a lot in common with me. It turns out, that person sits next to me in Anime Club. And has been for four years. I'm glad I realized this now.
In all honesty, they're right. Looks are important no matter how much or little in a relationship, and if you're acting out against random girls by flipping them off, you're definitely being immature about it. Also, asking out a girl simply because you've known them for a long time is definitely a childish idea.
(Jun. 24, 2011 11:15 AM)momiji manju Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 23, 2011 6:26 PM)Megablader9 Wrote: [ -> ]Funny, but it recently hit me that when I was asking that girl, I had no idea what being in a relationship meant. It was purely a status symbol to ask, and now I look stupid. While I hang out with girls often, it's mainly the ones from Anime Club, so I don't really understand the "popular" girls anyway. In fact, they kinda bug me. They fall all over the stupidest guys around, but the guy on the bench is ignored. In the end, who cares about my high GPA, and who cares that the head cheerleader's boyfriend has a 0.5. They don't really care, so why should I? I've been told to change my image so often, but now, hell no! If people think I'm a nerd, well they can kiss my magic carp. (No, not Magikarp.) I mean, why should I have to change my image because you don't like it? If you don't like how I look, turn around. They insist on calling me goofy, a nerd, and just plain lame, but the times I manage to sneak into the starting lineup, they don't remember that. Well, as a famous rapper once said: "Well, I don't remember you." So no, I won't be kissing every girl on the cheerleading squad, thank you. In fact, I'm more likely to flip you off. That's been my attitude lately, and while most people don't get it, I do. In fact, my dad just said "You need to change you image if you want a girlfriend." I yawned. I really don't care. I'm gonna ask one girl, but then I'm done. Besides, a lot of the girls at my school are kinda conceited and, well, rude. All they want to talk about is sex, and I'm always the one who says, "You do realize that we're in 9th grade, right?" So I'm done with the girls at my school. I always hoped that I would meet someone who was the opposite of that, and had a lot in common with me. It turns out, that person sits next to me in Anime Club. And has been for four years. I'm glad I realized this now.
In all honesty, they're right. Looks are important no matter how much or little in a relationship, and if you're acting out against random girls by flipping them off, you're definitely being immature about it. Also, asking out a girl simply because you've known them for a long time is definitely a childish idea.
I'm sorry, I think you misunderstand. You can't just ask out someone who you don't even know, it should be someone that you can be normal around, and not have to act differently. You should be able to be yourself, and therefore, someone you know well would be someone who you can be yourself. Regardless of whether she is or isn't close to you may or may not mean that she will or won't say yes, and...how many negatives did I just use?
The point is: dating total stranger=BAD dating person who you can be yourself around/even a friend=GOOD
(Jun. 24, 2011 11:15 AM)momiji manju Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 23, 2011 6:26 PM)Megablader9 Wrote: [ -> ]Funny, but it recently hit me that when I was asking that girl, I had no idea what being in a relationship meant. It was purely a status symbol to ask, and now I look stupid. While I hang out with girls often, it's mainly the ones from Anime Club, so I don't really understand the "popular" girls anyway. In fact, they kinda bug me. They fall all over the stupidest guys around, but the guy on the bench is ignored. In the end, who cares about my high GPA, and who cares that the head cheerleader's boyfriend has a 0.5. They don't really care, so why should I? I've been told to change my image so often, but now, hell no! If people think I'm a nerd, well they can kiss my magic carp. (No, not Magikarp.) I mean, why should I have to change my image because you don't like it? If you don't like how I look, turn around. They insist on calling me goofy, a nerd, and just plain lame, but the times I manage to sneak into the starting lineup, they don't remember that. Well, as a famous rapper once said: "Well, I don't remember you." So no, I won't be kissing every girl on the cheerleading squad, thank you. In fact, I'm more likely to flip you off. That's been my attitude lately, and while most people don't get it, I do. In fact, my dad just said "You need to change you image if you want a girlfriend." I yawned. I really don't care. I'm gonna ask one girl, but then I'm done. Besides, a lot of the girls at my school are kinda conceited and, well, rude. All they want to talk about is sex, and I'm always the one who says, "You do realize that we're in 9th grade, right?" So I'm done with the girls at my school. I always hoped that I would meet someone who was the opposite of that, and had a lot in common with me. It turns out, that person sits next to me in Anime Club. And has been for four years. I'm glad I realized this now.
In all honesty, they're right. Looks are important no matter how much or little in a relationship, and if you're acting out against random girls by flipping them off, you're definitely being immature about it. Also, asking out a girl simply because you've known them for a long time is definitely a childish idea.
Okay, you misunderstood the WHOLE concept. The idea was that I really shouldn't have to change my image for anyone. If I did, why would I be so active on the site now? Plus, I never said I flipped anyone off, I simply said I was more likely to. And plus by "Looks" I meant my image, in case you didn't read the sentence RIGHT BEFORE IT. And did you read the other post at all? I said I was going to ask the girl from anime club because I always end up talking to her when I get shot down. (My previous post. This was a follow-up.) Wow, you missed the mark on this one. I mean, the way you put it, I came off as a total jerk, but seemingly everyone else didn't see it that way. That's not being immature, that's my outlook on life in general. If you let someone else change you, you are no longer you. Wow, where'd you get this "childish" idea from, anyway?
(Jun. 24, 2011 2:51 PM)Megablader9 Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 24, 2011 11:15 AM)momiji manju Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 23, 2011 6:26 PM)Megablader9 Wrote: [ -> ]Funny, but it recently hit me that when I was asking that girl, I had no idea what being in a relationship meant. It was purely a status symbol to ask, and now I look stupid. While I hang out with girls often, it's mainly the ones from Anime Club, so I don't really understand the "popular" girls anyway. In fact, they kinda bug me. They fall all over the stupidest guys around, but the guy on the bench is ignored. In the end, who cares about my high GPA, and who cares that the head cheerleader's boyfriend has a 0.5. They don't really care, so why should I? I've been told to change my image so often, but now, hell no! If people think I'm a nerd, well they can kiss my magic carp. (No, not Magikarp.) I mean, why should I have to change my image because you don't like it? If you don't like how I look, turn around. They insist on calling me goofy, a nerd, and just plain lame, but the times I manage to sneak into the starting lineup, they don't remember that. Well, as a famous rapper once said: "Well, I don't remember you." So no, I won't be kissing every girl on the cheerleading squad, thank you. In fact, I'm more likely to flip you off. That's been my attitude lately, and while most people don't get it, I do. In fact, my dad just said "You need to change you image if you want a girlfriend." I yawned. I really don't care. I'm gonna ask one girl, but then I'm done. Besides, a lot of the girls at my school are kinda conceited and, well, rude. All they want to talk about is sex, and I'm always the one who says, "You do realize that we're in 9th grade, right?" So I'm done with the girls at my school. I always hoped that I would meet someone who was the opposite of that, and had a lot in common with me. It turns out, that person sits next to me in Anime Club. And has been for four years. I'm glad I realized this now.
In all honesty, they're right. Looks are important no matter how much or little in a relationship, and if you're acting out against random girls by flipping them off, you're definitely being immature about it. Also, asking out a girl simply because you've known them for a long time is definitely a childish idea.
Okay, you misunderstood the WHOLE concept. The idea was that I really shouldn't have to change my image for anyone. If I did, why would I be so active on the site now? Plus, I never said I flipped anyone off, I simply said I was more likely to. And plus by "Looks" I meant my image, in case you didn't read the sentence RIGHT BEFORE IT. And did you read the other post at all? I said I was going to ask the girl from anime club because I always end up talking to her when I get shot down. (My previous post. This was a follow-up.) Wow, you missed the mark on this one. I mean, the way you put it, I came off as a total jerk, but seemingly everyone else didn't see it that way. That's not being immature, that's my outlook on life in general. If you let someone else change you, you are no longer you. Wow, where'd you get this "childish" idea from, anyway?
I totaly agree. I understood that you should just be yourself, dont change for anyone, and be with someone you know(except I got shot down when I did that 2 months ago
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You may want to put that quote in a spoiler. I tend to type up very long posts. But anyway, off of that. He misunderstood, that's all. Or, I hope he did.
(Jun. 24, 2011 2:16 PM)Sparta Wrote: [ -> ]You can't just ask out someone who you don't even know
Redcom001's mother winked at his father as he was driving down the street. He pulled over and asked her out. They are now happily married and still madly in love. The point of asking out a "stranger" is to get to know them. This is life and the nature of attraction.
(Jun. 24, 2011 3:04 PM)bb gregandcin Wrote: [ -> ]I totaly agree. I understood that you should just be yourself, dont change for anyone, and be with someone you know(except I got shot down when I did that 2 months ago )
Change for yourself. If you want something bad enough, you will adapt. Change is not negative. You're all young so it is pretty much safe to say you're going to change anyway so just make sure it's for the right reasons and in the right direction.
(Jun. 24, 2011 3:14 PM)Deikailo Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 24, 2011 3:04 PM)bb gregandcin Wrote: [ -> ]I totaly agree. I understood that you should just be yourself, dont change for anyone, and be with someone you know(except I got shot down when I did that 2 months ago )
Change for yourself. If you want something bad enough, you will adapt. Change is not negative. You're all young so it is pretty much safe to say you're going to change anyway so just make sure it's for the right reasons and in the right direction.
that is what I ment to say, but I forgot that. most of the time I end up giving post that are interpeerdid in many ways and not the way I ment to say it. I am inexperienced in alot of ways, girls and post alike
I think you meant to say "Interpreted". I've got to say, I have to applaud the general maturity on this thread. It seems that everyone here actually has something to say, and is willing to say it, even if it is embarrassing. Kudos to you all. Really, I think Deikailo hit the nail right on the head.
(Jun. 24, 2011 3:14 PM)Deikailo Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 24, 2011 2:16 PM)Sparta Wrote: [ -> ]You can't just ask out someone who you don't even know
Redcom001's mother winked at his father as he was driving down the street. He pulled over and asked her out. They are now happily married and still madly in love. The point of asking out a "stranger" is to get to know them. This is life and the nature of attraction.
When you're older, yes. But in middle school? Winking at someone will earn you an instant slap. When you get into college, then it's good to get to know people, what they like, what their interests are, because that's a part of dating. When you're in middle school, you try to get to know the person BEFORE you ask them on dates. Again, the rules change when you get older, but in junior high and high school....
Middle schoolers should just not be dating.
So damn true Delkailo, people tend to build a sense of dignity off of removing "V" out of their life's category (you should know what I mean). Such as being complete carpholes to anyone younger or with mental imperfections.
At my school people will actually go into detail about your sex life if you bring a PSP.
It's the media. Television, rap music, and pretty much every major celebrity has at least referenced sex. Plus, movies tend to make it look like a bad thing to not have had sex. A lot of people in my class have claimed to lost their virginity, and I normally look appalled. Sadly, that's the mentality of this generation. What happened to running away scared when you learn where you came from?
(Jun. 24, 2011 8:51 PM)Megablader9 Wrote: [ -> ]It's the media. Television, rap music, and pretty much every major celebrity has at least referenced sex. Plus, movies tend to make it look like a bad thing to not have had sex. A lot of people in my class have claimed to lost their virginity, and I normally look appalled. Sadly, that's the mentality of this generation. What happened to running away scared when you learn where you came from?
when you were in the fifth grade, they showed us pictures, but all we did was laugh then the video came on and you almost barfed the class away. but I know a lot of people that are in the
6th grade and say that they lost v in there life. to much media
(Jun. 24, 2011 8:51 PM)Megablader9 Wrote: [ -> ]It's the media. Television, rap music, and pretty much every major celebrity has at least referenced sex. Plus, movies tend to make it look like a bad thing to not have had sex. A lot of people in my class have claimed to lost their virginity, and I normally look appalled. Sadly, that's the mentality of this generation. What happened to running away scared when you learn where you came from?
People should stop blaming the media for their poor choices.
Also, never believe someone who says they gave themselves up before the age of 16, especially guys. They like to lie about that.
Not blaming it. People need to turn away, it's really just a distraction. I know it sounds like old news, but people think it's cool. It's not. In fact, a bunch of people lined up for condoms at the end of school just to look cool, and I was the one looking at them as if they were nuts. Honestly, I wish I had a dollar for every time a rapper said that sex was everything besides money. But if people don't change their own bad habits, who will? On the other hand, it's not as if the rest of the world can just turn the other cheek.
Media is sometimes fun to watch, but remember that it's media, not real life. That's the mistake a lot of people make. Take it with a grain of salt.
And my lifes rule: you should only date people have of your age +7, so really you shouldn't date until 8th grade.
But I dated someone in 3rd grade, so...
(Jun. 24, 2011 5:20 PM)Deikailo Wrote: [ -> ]Middle schoolers should just not be dating.
i say its it fine when your in middle school and up but no below
(Jun. 25, 2011 4:12 AM)tanzam2 Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 24, 2011 5:20 PM)Deikailo Wrote: [ -> ]Middle schoolers should just not be dating.
i say its it fine when your in middle school and up but no below
Are you in middle school?
No, in middle school, it's honestly not the same as dating later. It's honestly not only something you shouldn't be worried about, but the relationships are a waste of time.
: every post you have made is absolutely spot-on. Honestly, there is nothing more I can say here.
(Jun. 24, 2011 10:38 AM)th!nk Wrote: [ -> ]Believe me, you'll find, and either miss, or more often lose, many "the one's", based on the criteria you're using. Hell, even I make the mistake sometimes. I have a lot of trouble saying "I love you" in any serious way. That said, I really thought my last relationship would last as we were very much "right" for each other, more than anyone else I've found, and even that eventually broke down.
I guess what I'm trying to say is be cautious applying the term "the one", and also "love", as it's more likely to fuel only sadness and disappointment.
Soubds grim, but a better way to put it is "don't take things too seriously."
hey somtimes you just WANT to be sad about somthing.
When you're older, yes. But in middle school? Winking at someone will earn you an instant slap
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my freind used to winked at girls and every time got something more painful then that
he sead it was almost as painful as riding are bikes dawn the stares
we used to ride dawn stares alot we were a reckless idiots back then
ok we still are
(Jun. 25, 2011 4:14 AM)NoodooSoup Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 25, 2011 4:12 AM)tanzam2 Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 24, 2011 5:20 PM)Deikailo Wrote: [ -> ]Middle schoolers should just not be dating.
i say its it fine when your in middle school and up but no below
Are you in middle school?
8th grade but not intrested in dating
(Jun. 25, 2011 4:12 AM)tanzam2 Wrote: [ -> ] (Jun. 24, 2011 5:20 PM)Deikailo Wrote: [ -> ]Middle schoolers should just not be dating.
i say its it fine when your in middle school and up but no below
Then what? It's pointless because you won't do anything with the relationship anyway. I mean, most 8th graders don't even know what a relationship is, let alone how to be in one. To kids that age, a relationship means you make out on a regular basis and you brag about it. After that, it's just someone to claim to have dated, even if you never really took it seriously. Wait until high school, and even then, think about who you "date", or just wait a bit longer. When you think about it, middle schoolers really have no idea besides what they see on TV what a relatioship is, anyway. That's my input on the idea.