(Aug. 29, 2013 5:07 AM)Ultramarine Wrote: Ok, there can be no tone in any non-verbal situation, read one of my posts above. Posts should be taken to mean what they say, and nothing else.
Exactly. This is the Internet. People see things in different perspectives.
My perspectives Speech from earlier:
While I do say that there seems to be "more rudeness" on the forums, I can't say that I wasn't ever rude here. I might not remember it, but someone else might. Or maybe I don't see it as rude, but maybe you do. This brings me to another point; sarcasm doesn't translate online without you saying something like " *Sarcastic tone* " or something. Me and Tri were PMing the other day saying how the words "Haha" could be read in a sarcastic tone, a regular laughing tone, or a mad tone. So, what I'm trying to get at is that rudeness could be perceived differently from different perspectives. The poster might not see their post as rude, but you might. When you tell them they're being rude, they get angry at you, unless they see that they were rude and apologize.
Sometimes I feel people argue with moderators to see how far they can push them, or how mad they can get. It's just like bullying in real life. But I keep seeing more and more new members disrespecting the moderators. *sigh*
What I said earlier:
The theory I have is that the moderator either needs to scare the member into following the rules, or ease them into the rules. Just like if you had a nice teacher, if they ask you to stop texting or eating in class, you're more likely to listen because you have more respect. On the other hand, if you had a mean teacher, you might want to get back at them/talk back. Or, the teacher could be so mean that you get scared of him/her and stay away from them. I think this is what is going on with the forum.
Warm welcome/reason= Good Straightforward/Mean= Bad
The moderators here aren't mean or strict in my eyes, but to a new member still wetting their feet in the forum, they can seem mean. It's like if someone was starting to learn to swim, they wet their feet. But if the swim coach pulls them underwater and forces them to learn that way, they get scared of swimming, just like if the moderator is being too harsh.
This only applies to new members , though. If they have been on the forum for quite a while, any rule violation should be met with straightforward answers/ thread locks.