(Sep. 18, 2011 3:12 AM)Shabalabadoo Wrote:(Sep. 18, 2011 3:09 AM)Bey-Heart Wrote: Anybody got any tips?
she's an idiot.
"I don't like you like that anymore"
What the bad word?
He's 15. She's likely also 15. Infatuation is a quick, dirty, soulless chemical process within the brain, and has no more to do with real connection than how loudly you pass gas in your sleep outside of being the "gateway drug" of real love.
Pretty much any "love" teenagers encounter is just a quick shot of the fake stuff. There are exceptions, but very, very few. Her brain chemicals decided it was time to cut the infatuation train short. It's not her fault.
Move on. "Love", as most people in this thread see it, is just a chemical thing that will go away. Wizard of Oz-level scheming by your own brain. You'll know the real thing when the spark dies and you're still interested - but I can pretty much assure you, it's not likely to happen as soon, or as often, as you really feel like it's happening.
Infatuation is the primary means of hormonal torture and maturing that manifests during teenage developmental years. Over time, after prolonged exposure, your receptors begin to become more and more resistant to it. Eventually, you become entirely immune. That is the point where real love either starts, or fake love falls apart.
Most of you will not see the happy ending until years down the line, after you've matured enough to understand what you genuinely want out of life. Cynical though it may be, it's hard fact. No, this doesn't change how everything feels for you right now, and you should still act on these things, to grow as a person - but tread carefully, and take with a grain of salt your own emotions, as they lie in ways you cannot conceive.
I am personally of the opinion that this thread is of no valid functionality, let alone contribution, given the ages and natures of the relationships often being discussed in it, to be entirely honest. I still give my input and experience in an attempt to guide people into a more informed way of handling things, largely in the hopes that at least some of this will resound to you - that perhaps some pitfalls may be avoided by people simply realizing the truth of their own emotional functionalities.
However, when that proves not to be occurring, this thread is simply children chasing children and asking other children how to do it. Very few genuinely experienced people comment here, and getting amateur advice is just a dangerous road to take.