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RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Hazel - Sep. 18, 2011
(Sep. 18, 2011 3:12 AM)Shabalabadoo Wrote:(Sep. 18, 2011 3:09 AM)Bey-Heart Wrote: Anybody got any tips?
she's an idiot.
"I don't like you like that anymore"
What the bad word?
He's 15. She's likely also 15. Infatuation is a quick, dirty, soulless chemical process within the brain, and has no more to do with real connection than how loudly you pass gas in your sleep outside of being the "gateway drug" of real love.
Pretty much any "love" teenagers encounter is just a quick shot of the fake stuff. There are exceptions, but very, very few. Her brain chemicals decided it was time to cut the infatuation train short. It's not her fault.
Move on. "Love", as most people in this thread see it, is just a chemical thing that will go away. Wizard of Oz-level scheming by your own brain. You'll know the real thing when the spark dies and you're still interested - but I can pretty much assure you, it's not likely to happen as soon, or as often, as you really feel like it's happening.
Infatuation is the primary means of hormonal torture and maturing that manifests during teenage developmental years. Over time, after prolonged exposure, your receptors begin to become more and more resistant to it. Eventually, you become entirely immune. That is the point where real love either starts, or fake love falls apart.
Most of you will not see the happy ending until years down the line, after you've matured enough to understand what you genuinely want out of life. Cynical though it may be, it's hard fact. No, this doesn't change how everything feels for you right now, and you should still act on these things, to grow as a person - but tread carefully, and take with a grain of salt your own emotions, as they lie in ways you cannot conceive.
I am personally of the opinion that this thread is of no valid functionality, let alone contribution, given the ages and natures of the relationships often being discussed in it, to be entirely honest. I still give my input and experience in an attempt to guide people into a more informed way of handling things, largely in the hopes that at least some of this will resound to you - that perhaps some pitfalls may be avoided by people simply realizing the truth of their own emotional functionalities.
However, when that proves not to be occurring, this thread is simply children chasing children and asking other children how to do it. Very few genuinely experienced people comment here, and getting amateur advice is just a dangerous road to take.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Viral - Sep. 18, 2011
(Sep. 17, 2011 3:51 AM)mailz0rr Wrote: I want to ask a girl out but whenever i go up to talk to her my fingers go crazy and my feet start wobbling and my stomach is rumbling like crazy and i just found out she used to like me but after all those tries of asking her out and looking retarted she aiint like me anymore i dont know what to dowell i wrote a note to her saying that i liked her right and i put it in her bag and when she saw it she started blushing and smiling what does that mean??
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - CyberBlader27 - Sep. 18, 2011
(Sep. 18, 2011 3:19 AM)mailz0rr Wrote:What do you think? Smiling + giggling = Happiness or embarrassment... (or she thought it was from someone else.(Sep. 17, 2011 3:51 AM)mailz0rr Wrote: I want to ask a girl out but whenever i go up to talk to her my fingers go crazy and my feet start wobbling and my stomach is rumbling like crazy and i just found out she used to like me but after all those tries of asking her out and looking retarted she aiint like me anymore i dont know what to dowell i wrote a note to her saying that i liked her right and i put it in her bag and when she saw it she started blushing and smiling what does that mean??
)Wow I haven't posted in this thread in a while...
By the way, according to my best friend, I was recently dumped.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Ninja Crab - Sep. 18, 2011
Almost 1 month since my most akward moment in my entire life!! ( asking her out ) so this Thursday, i hav a suprise for her and i'll tell u guys how it went wen it comes around XD. And u go mailz0rr!!
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Deikailo - Sep. 18, 2011
(Sep. 18, 2011 3:19 AM)mailz0rr Wrote: well i wrote a note to her saying that i liked her right and i put it in her bag and when she saw it she started blushing and smiling what does that mean??It means she likes you, bro.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Sparta - Sep. 18, 2011
"If she wears light up sneakers, she's too young for you bro!"
^That rule applies. If she blushes and stuff, great. But if she really won't talk to you and is immature about the relationship then she might not be ready to have one yet. Give her some time, and be friends first! It was 4 years of friendship before my 2nd girlfriend started liking me, and another half a year before she asked me out. This way though, even when you break up you will still have a strong friendship to hold you together
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - PHANTOMxBLADER - Sep. 18, 2011
None yet
But i like people ;D
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Dirge - Sep. 18, 2011
(Sep. 18, 2011 2:24 PM)Sparta Wrote: "If she wears light up sneakers, she's too young for you bro!"
"If snow white is the only movie she has on dvd, she's too young for you bro"
xD
but serious post, but generally when you a girl gives you there phone number do they expect you to text message them straight away?
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Sparta - Sep. 18, 2011
If you like that girl, you text her. If you don't then don't. No real problem there.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Raigeko13 - Sep. 18, 2011
>Text her
No. Talk to her IRL if you can. Texting kills relationships a lot of times lol
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Hov - Sep. 18, 2011
(Sep. 18, 2011 11:02 PM)Raigeko13 Wrote: >Text her
No. Talk to her IRL if you can. Texting kills relationships a lot of times lol
So freaking true. Its like the girl cant belive you over the phone because you're not there showing your seriousness and loving. Most of my relationships ends over texts or gossip smh =/
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Annoying-Fork - Sep. 19, 2011
Breaking up without in person discussion is like kicking someone in the nads as a first move in self defense. I sometimes wonder if kids are raised to do that.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Hazel - Sep. 19, 2011
(Sep. 19, 2011 12:12 AM)Codeine Extorts Wrote: Breaking up without in person discussion is like kicking someone in the nads as a first move in self defense. I sometimes wonder if kids are raised to do that.
Your simile is flawed - if it's a genuine self defense scenario, your first, and best, course of action is to cripple the opponent, in whatever way possible, immediately. I'm sure people would think you were more of a man for trying to fight fair in an unfair fight and get mugged, killed, whatever, but having a brain is cool, too.
As for texting, don't use it to send important thoughts/sentiments to the individual, just mindless smalltalk and whatever. Everything else, do in person, or on the phone(typically, only set up dates via the phone). But, really... there's no reason to text when vocal conversation is a solid option.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - JBey - Sep. 19, 2011
It's official. I'm done w/ love. Rather not talk on a thread, so, instead, pm me
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Annoying-Fork - Sep. 19, 2011
I wonder how many people say that then change their minds. Not judging, but just wondering.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Hazel - Sep. 19, 2011
(Sep. 19, 2011 1:30 AM)JBey Wrote: It's official. I'm done w/ love. Rather not talk on a thread, so, instead, pm me
It's official, no you're not.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Pimpju - Sep. 19, 2011
(Sep. 18, 2011 5:16 PM)Dirge Wrote:Long time no see.(Sep. 18, 2011 2:24 PM)Sparta Wrote: "If she wears light up sneakers, she's too young for you bro!"
"If snow white is the only movie she has on dvd, she's too young for you bro"
xD
but serious post, but generally when you a girl gives you there phone number do they expect you to text message them straight away?
Usually I'd wait a while.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Deikailo - Sep. 19, 2011
So my mother keeps telling me to go to match.com or go out to a gay bar to meet someone. She keeps mentioning Fire Island for meeting women. I keep telling her I don't want to be in a relationship, but she somehow forgets that I don't. She'll say "but you keep telling me you want to be with someone" and I have to explain "Ma, I told you that last year"
If any of you have seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding, the Greeks are all about setting you up if you're single past the age of 18. What is wrong with my culture?
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Hazel - Sep. 19, 2011
(Sep. 19, 2011 3:52 AM)Deikailo Wrote: So my mother keeps telling me to go to match.com or go out to a gay bar to meet someone. She keeps mentioning Fire Island for meeting women. I keep telling her I don't want to be in a relationship, but she somehow forgets that I don't. She'll say "but you keep telling me you want to be with someone" and I have to explain "Ma, I told you that last year"
If any of you have seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding, the Greeks are all about setting you up if you're single past the age of 18. What is wrong with my culture?
It's not just your culture, really - my family insisted on trying to set me up with other people even after I got engaged, or that I get a "back up girl", and we're all rednecks down here. Most of society insists upon coupling after a certain age, regardless of each individual's personal feelings.
It's also a commonly portrayed stereotype of the Jewish faith, but I've never witnessed that in person.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Annoying-Fork - Sep. 19, 2011
It's kind of patronizing to be told to go to Match.com when you are actually looking forward to seeing local women/men for now. Even more so if it's by some random jerk.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Dirge - Sep. 19, 2011
(Sep. 18, 2011 11:02 PM)Raigeko13 Wrote: >Text her
No. Talk to her IRL if you can. Texting kills relationships a lot of times lol
not to sure about that one tbh, i was in a long distance relationship for almost 10 months and txting was one of the main forms of communicating with her....
(Sep. 19, 2011 2:27 AM)Pimpju Wrote: Long time no see.yeah man its been to long
Usually I'd wait a while.
yeah i meet this girl on saturday keep forgetting to text her not to sure if i should dont want to seem desperate or anything eh.
been out of the single game for awhile so not so sure as to what to do anymore hah
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Deikailo - Sep. 19, 2011
(Sep. 19, 2011 4:02 AM)Hazel Wrote: It's not just your culture, really - my family insisted on trying to set me up with other people even after I got engaged, or that I get a "back up girl", and we're all rednecks down here. Most of society insists upon coupling after a certain age, regardless of each individual's personal feelings.My mother is seriously the only one that does this.
It's also a commonly portrayed stereotype of the Jewish faith, but I've never witnessed that in person.
(Sep. 19, 2011 4:02 AM)Codeine Extorts Wrote: It's kind of patronizing to be told to go to Match.com when you are actually looking forward to seeing local women/men for now. Even more so if it's by some random jerk.My mother is not a random jerk.
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Hazel - Sep. 19, 2011
(Sep. 19, 2011 5:41 AM)Codeine Extorts Wrote: To be specific, I was talking about those kinds of people who barely know you and tell you to do something on the internet which is supposed to benefit or take away from life.
So... this entire thread?
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Annoying-Fork - Sep. 19, 2011
No cigar.
That one guy/girl who you don't know that's sitting with your friends at the table throwing out advice which may not appeal to you out in the blue.
Thanks, for pointing out how much I fail again. Heh. I guess having angry thoughts lingering on in your head does effect something....
RE: Boy/girl friend Thread - Pimpju - Sep. 19, 2011
(Sep. 19, 2011 5:04 AM)Dirge Wrote:(Sep. 19, 2011 2:27 AM)Pimpju Wrote: Long time no see.yeah man its been to long
Usually I'd wait a while.
yeah i meet this girl on saturday keep forgetting to text her not to sure if i should dont want to seem desperate or anything eh.
been out of the single game for awhile so not so sure as to what to do anymore hah
Haha same. I'm in the same position, it's going well for me right now though, just relax a bit.