For old people, it doesn't matter but for young people, it can be a issue. Students tend to have a relationship with someone of his age.
How bad is to go out with someone who is younger that you of two years or older that you of two years? Does someone experience something like that?
Consider that you and your friends don't have the same interests of your crush, maybe you like clubbing but your crush like going shopping.
Feel free to post your opinion.
As long as both are happy it doesnt matter, thats what i would say.
I'm seeing someone literally twice my age.
It's really not a big deal after a certain age.
(Jul. 22, 2009 5:11 AM)Roan Wrote: [ -> ]I'm seeing someone literally twice my age.
It's really not a big deal after a certain age.
Wow seriously? for how long have u been dating?
If they are having fun with each other then it is fine.
No, age doesn't matter at all. If you read some shoujo manga they don't care and neither do I. It's the love that counts!
(Jul. 22, 2009 5:13 AM)StormPegasis Wrote: [ -> ]If they are having fun with each other then it is fine.
Haha it is, it is still weird though. Hes 20 so his partner is like... 40? thats a huge gap.
''No, age doesn't matter at all. If you read some shoujo manga they don't care and neither do I. ''
shoujou mangas LOL. fruits basket and real life isnt exactly the same
(Jul. 22, 2009 5:14 AM)Beynval Wrote: [ -> ]Haha it is, it is still weird though. Hes 20 so his partner is like... 40? thats a huge gap.
''No, age doesn't matter at all. If you read some shoujo manga they don't care and neither do I. ''
shoujou mangas LOL. fruits basket and real life isnt exactly the same
That is a big difference of age, a 20-years-old man doesn't have the same interests as a 40-years-old woman.
(Jul. 22, 2009 5:32 AM)Dranzer. Wrote: [ -> ]That is a big difference of age, a 20-years-old man doesn't have the same interests as a 40-years-old woman.
I believe he is gay.
Wether the love is "real" or not dosen't always matter, depending on the age of the two people in the relationship. For example, a 17 year old boy dates a 14 year old girl. The boy is about to reach his full on maturity, and even then, his personality will be undegoing huge changes in the upcoming years because of the challenges of life, and just him deciding what he wants out of life. All the while this is happening, the girl is going to be hormonal, and going through HUGE personality changes. This causes a ton of friction in the relationship, and this isn't taking into account the extra pressure from outside sources. This would be true even if the genders were switched, and the boy was the young one.
But, let's say a 23 year old female and a 26 year old male are in a relationship, it's completely different. At that point they have both determined what they want out of life, and have matured fully. They (hopefully) are no longer living with their parents and have been on their own for a while and know what life is like. And their taste in the opposite gender won't be changing, and they know what they want in a relationship.
I would pick the older couple to last over the younger couple 10/10. No matter how "in love" the younger couple is.
(Jul. 22, 2009 5:32 AM)Beynval Wrote: [ -> ]I believe he is gay.
For a normal relationship, I believe the age factor is important. I am 18 years old and I have a summer crush on a girl who has 16. Does that make me someone who doesn't want to go through the adult life? No but for any friends, they will think of it. Also, they have the barrier that I am major and not her.
And it's not pedophilia, haha. Well, I think pedophilia is someone major who has interest to a children under 13 years old.
No, the age gap doesn't really matter at all as long as they both like each other ...
(Jul. 22, 2009 5:43 AM)Dranzer. Wrote: [ -> ]For a normal relationship, I believe the age factor is important. I am 18 years old and I have a summer crush on a girl who has 16. Does that make me someone who doesn't want to go through the adult life? No but for any friends, they will think of it. Also, they have the barrier that I am major and not her.
And it's not pedophilia, haha. Well, I think pedophilia is someone major who has interest to a children under 13 years old.
Some 13 year old girls date guys ur age.
And come on, why do u make it such a big deal for 2 years? If i wasn't going out with SJ, i probably would have been going out with another girl 2 years younger than me, and i didnt not c any problem regarding the age, only the ''language'' frontier since shes anglophone and all. is it because ur tall and shes tall like 3 apples? U should create a thread about: ''Is Height a factor in a relationship'' instead LOL
What the_general said about hormones, outside pressure and all is totally true.
(Jul. 22, 2009 5:38 AM)The_General Wrote: [ -> ]Wether the love is "real" or not dosen't always matter, depending on the age of the two people in the relationship. For example, a 17 year old boy dates a 14 year old girl. The boy is about to reach his full on maturity, and even then, his personality will be undegoing huge changes in the upcoming years because of the challenges of life, and just him deciding what he wants out of life. All the while this is happening, the girl is going to be hormonal, and going through HUGE personality changes. This causes a ton of friction in the relationship, and this isn't taking into account the extra pressure from outside sources. This would be true even if the genders were switched, and the boy was the young one.
But, let's say a 23 year old female and a 26 year old male are in a relationship, it's completely different. At that point they have both determined what they want out of life, and have matured fully. They (hopefully) are no longer living with their parents and have been on their own for a while and know what life is like. And their taste in the opposite gender won't be changing, and they know what they want in a relationship.
I would pick the older couple to last over the younger couple 10/10. No matter how "in love" the younger couple is.
I agree with you but the older one in a relationship will always have more ressources in his hands. I explain, the older one will have more experience, will do more things in his life that the younger one. I don't know if the older one accepts that the younger one is superior that him in terms of intelligence and experiencing life. I feel, for a durable relationship, that the difference of age needs to be the smallest possible. I don't want to think that the older one will suffer diseases and the younger one will, most probably, enjoy his life.
But I say this if someone want a durable relationship and not a 1-month relationship.
(Jul. 22, 2009 5:47 AM)Beynval Wrote: [ -> ]Some 13 year old girls date guys ur age.
And come on, why do u make it such a big deal for 2 years? If i wasn't going out with SJ, i probably would have been going out with another girl 2 years younger than me, and i didnt not c any problem regarding the age, only the ''language'' frontier since shes anglophone and all. is it because ur tall and shes tall like 3 apples? U should create a thread about: ''Is Height a factor in a relationship'' instead LOL
What the_general said about hormones, outside pressure and all is totally true.
For me, I think personally that I don't care if she is younger that me. But for her, I don't know. I think she better likes people of her age, she is experiencing her childish life.
I don't know that C is younger that you of two years, dude, only 14 years old.
(Jul. 22, 2009 5:13 AM)Beynval Wrote: [ -> ]Wow seriously? for how long have u been dating?
We've been seeing each other since January-ish, but we aren't officially dating. So about 5 months or so.
Dragonsclaw Wrote:No, age doesn't matter at all. If you read some shoujo manga they don't care and neither do I. It's the love that counts!
Anime and Manga =/= real life. I think some age difference relationships can work, but they aren't all perfect and they definitely bring about a unique set of issues to deal with, as I'm constantly learning every day.
Beynval Wrote:Haha it is, it is still weird though. Hes 20 so his partner is like... 40? thats a huge gap.
He's 41, 42 next month. It is a huge gap, but we are so much alike and have so much in common that it's rarely an issue.
Beynval Wrote:I believe he is gay.
I am. Don't know how many times I have to post this publicly. lol
Dranzer Wrote:For a normal relationship, I believe the age factor is important.
You should watch your wording when discussing things like this. I'll admit I was a little offended by this. Yes I realize that the relationship I have is abnormal, but it almost seems like you're discarding any worth that it might have simply because it's so uncommon.
Personally I don't see the issue with age difference in relationships. As long as both partners are entering into a mutually respectful and willing relationship, are aware of the differences in their age and the friction that may cause, then there's really no cause for concern. If they can't handle it or compromise for the sake of their relationship then it will dissolve and shouldn't have happened in the first place.
What I'm saying is that it takes a lot of maturity on BOTH ends in an age-difference relationship to really make it work, and trust me, I know from a lot of first hand experience, it is a
very difficult thing to do.
This topic isn't at all appropriate for this board.
Dranzer., perhaps you should open your mind a bit more.
(Jul. 22, 2009 6:38 AM)Roan Wrote: [ -> ]What I'm saying is that it takes a lot of maturity on BOTH ends in an age-difference relationship to really make it work, and trust me, I know from a lot of first hand experience, it is a very difficult thing to do.
Correct, no matter what a person's sexuality may be, it dosen't change the fact that it's two individuals coming together in a relationship. Heck, maturity is a huge factor even if you are the same age or close to it. If there was a 15 year old who had the mind of an 18 year old, dating an 18 year old, I wouldn't count them out as fast as I would say...a stereotypical teenage girl, with an older partner. Maturity makes or breaks the relationship, because in the end, if you can't stand the way the person acts, it's just not gonna happen. And let's not even get into the "You try to change me!" arguments...thats just bound to crash and burn. lol